Breaking up is hard to do; the song doesn't lie. But if you are the one initiating the break-up, there are some things you can do (and not do) that can make the break-up as painless as possible. First, remember your soon-to-be former partner has given you a part of his or her life. Honor your history together by not criticizing him or her at the critical moment. In most instances, breaking up is your issue, not theirs. If they ask you why you are breaking up with them, be honest but tactful. If the shoe is on the other foot and you are the one being let go, respect your partner's decision.