Infatuation says "We must get married right away. I can't risk losing him/her." Love says "Be patient; don't panic. He/she is yours. Plan your future with confidence." Infatuation has an element of sexual excitement. If you are honest, you will admit it is difficult to be in one another's company unless you are sure it will end in intimacy. Love is the maturation of friendship. You must be friends before you can be lovers.
Harry Stack Sullivan, a wise psychologist, once said, "Love begins when a person finds another person's needs to be as important as his own." Use this ideal as a measuring stick for every relationship. Do you care more for your partner's needs than your own? If you can honestly answer yes, then you may be in love! If your partner feels the same, you can both consider yourselves lucky. You have each found your soulmate and, hopefully, you will continue to be happy together.