Clarify Parental Relationships

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What should I do if my parents are impacting my dating life?

Clarify Parental Relationships

When you marry someone, you marry their parents. Dr. Warren, in his book titled "Finding the Love of Your Life," suggests that that couples should work through and clarify their relationships with their parents before marriage. He suggests that, "When we marry, it will be ideal if in relation to our parents (1) we are essentially free from them--emotionally independent individuals--so we do not have to make decisions and live our lives to please them; (2) we are clear about what is particularly true of our relationship with our mother and father, and what is true in relation to our spouse; and (3) we have established a relationship with our parents in which they will not intrude in our marriage, will not dictate to us in any authoritative ways, and yet we stil maintain a closeness and connectedness to them."

   

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