Not all surprises are good ones. Breaking up unexpectedly with your boyfriend or girlfriend is a bad surprise. Sometimes the break up can be a very unfriendly experience. You feel rejected. You may even start questioning your worth. When a break up happens, it is important to step back and breathe. Don't take responsibility for everything that went wrong. Realize that if your partner no longer wants to be with you, you shouldn't want to be with someone who feels that way about you. Look for ways to change your day-to-day routine so you don't feel your partner's absence. Look to the future and try to learn from your past relationship.