October 12, 2007, Newsletter Issue #189: Help to Control Blushing When Talking to a Boy or a Girl

Tip of the Week

There is one cognitive behavioral trick used by psychologists that may help tone down the blushing and make you feel more relaxed. It takes some practice but it's worth it to reach your goal.

Sometimes looking at your fears in an exaggerated way can help alliviate the painfulness of the thoughts so that you relax. Asking yourself what is the worst thing that can happen and then imagine it happening will help take away some of the agonizing fear of making a mistake or not looking natural because it will help you see how unlikely that it will happen and that it's not the end of the world if you are not perfect.

Also, remember that we tend to think it is worse than it really is and beat up on ourselves while others may notice some redness or blush and yet not see it as a big deal.

Another goal to practice is to have a ready answer if someone does mention the blushing such as: it's warm in here or I'm shy and I like you.

Blushing is common and not always seen as a problem but as an endearing quality. However, if you feel it interferes with a normally functioning life, there are medicines that may help when prescribed by a doctor.

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