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Hi, my name is Jen Brister, the Date Guru at LifeTips.
Enjoy these 315 Date tips. More added weekly!  What to Say on the First Date | Jan 02, 2009
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What to Say on the First DateA first date can be an amazing adventure or a disasterous dead-end, depending on the conversation involved. Knowing what to say on the first date can be hard, but there are some things you should definitely save a later time. What Not to Talk about on a First Date 1. Your Ex. Do not spend any amount of time talking about your ex on the first date. The first date is for you to get to know each other, not for you to have a willing audience to bash your ex. 2. Family Problems. If your Aunt Susie is a raging alcoholic who abuses your Uncle Buddy, the first date is not the time to bring it up! Save the family drama for another time. 3. Things You Hate. If your date asks you about your interests and you spend all night talking about all the things you hate, you can bet that there won't be a second date. Keep your comments and attitude positive. Talk about things you like (music, tv, movies) instead of things you don't (pancakes, anything celtic, programming your TiVo). You can spend time bonding over the things you hate after you have gotten comfortable with each other. Introducing your Kids to your DateIf you're a single person dating someone new, you might feel the need to introduce your kids to the person that you're dating. Don't rush into it! Wait until you have been on 3 or more dates with the person and then if you feel that you have a strong connection, you can casually introduce them to your kids. Answer any questions your kids might have with honset answers and try to keep things lighthearted. Getting Your Online Dating Personals RightChemistry.com Tip: Creating online dating personals are important because they are the portal to who you are as a person and whom you might best make a match with. However, it’s important not only to create one, but it’s important to get these online dating personals right. Here’s some advice to get you on the right track. 1. Choose your username wisely. Selecting a username like “BoringGirl23” or “StudMuffinIAm” doesn’t make for an attractive profile. First Date ConversationWhen on a first date, remember to do more listening than talking. Getting to know your date requires you to ask questions and then carefully listen to the answers. Questions such as ,"What are your hobbies?" are appropriate. Questions such as, "When is the last time you had sex"? are not. Using Science For MatchmakingChemistry.com Tip: Have you ever wondered if there is a science to matchmaking? According to anthropologist Dr.Helen Fisher who has authored several books on the science of love, matchmaking does has a science component to it. Emotions in general, are controlled by chemical influences. According to Dr. Fisher, a person emits high levels of dopamine, a chemical that controls impulses, when he or she falls in love. This release of dopamine explains occurrences like loss of appetite, giddiness and overall euphoria during the beginning stages of love. Dr. Fisher uses some of the principals that she’s studied about the science of love in her creation of an assessment for the online dating site, Chemistry.com. Be CarefulOnline dating has opened a whole new world of dating opportunities for men and women alike, but there are some things you should consider before you take the plunge. While most online dating sites work hard to ensure the safety of their members, exercise caution regarding the personal information you provide online. Also, you are developing relationships with people outside the normal day-to-day routine of work and other frustrations, so don't move to quickly. Make sure you give yourself ample opportunity to meet and spend time with your online date in the 'real world.' Finally, set realistic expectations for your online dating experience. You're still dealing with flawed human beings; don't let the technology make you forget that important point. Don’t Draw Attention To Faults When Using An Online Dating ServiceChemistry.com Tip: Since using an online dating service is still a newer concept, it’s not surprising that there are some blatant mistakes that singles make. Using an online dating service is merely the tool to help you meet a potential long-term relationship. However, there are some things you can do to increase your chance for success with an online dating service. Don’t call attention to what you might deem as faults. Even if you’re unemployed, divorced or have a less than model appearance, you can present yourself in an honest way without degrading yourself. Note what you typically do for a living without saying you’re not currently working. The explanation can come later. If you’re divorced, there’s no need for a lengthy explanation on why your relationship failed. Harping on your ex is not a strong suit. If you feel your appearance is less than celebrity-grade, have no worries. You can use humor to address a “short coming,” such as height or ignore your physical attributes completely and just let a flattering photo do the talking. Sending a Girl a DrinkIf you're in a bar and you want to send a girl a drink as a means of letting her know that you find her attractive and that you'd like to get to know her, you need to follow a couple of simple rules. 1. Send the drink over, but don't sit there and stare at her or immediately go up to her table. Wait for the waiter to bring her drink and when she looks over at you give her a nod and a smile. Wait a few minutes to see if she approaches you. 2. If she doesn't approach you, feel free to go over and confidently introduce yourself and ask if you can sit down. If she says yes, sit down and begin a conversation. If she says no, walk away and forget about it. A Matchmaking Service Connecting You To The Right Personality TypeChemistry.com Tip: Ever wish that you could find the right personality type to mesh with yours in the dating scene? It’s not only possible; it’s a science. Chemistry.com is a matchmaking service that uses that science to help you find that special someone who is right for you. According to renowned human attraction expert Dr. Helen Fisher, there are four main personality types: the Explorer, the Builder, the Negotiator and the Director. Chemisty.com’s matchmaking service establishes what type of personality type you are and then determines the personality type you’d best be suited for. It’s a scientific way of matching up couples! Personal Ads OnlineReady to dive into the dating pool? Online personals are an excellent way to get your feet wet. Almost all major online dating sites allow you to create and post personal ads and photo personals, often for free to give you a taste of their dating services. One of the major bonuses of online personals is they reach a larger audience. Online personals also often have pre-set matching criteria, allowing you to quickly establish which users share your activities and interests. Online personals sites provide safe and efficient communication with other posters. If you are interested in someone, you can contact them in only a few mouse clicks.
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