When you are dating and you have kids, it's hard to know when to introduce your significant other to the children. Never introduce them until you have made a commitment to have an exclusive relationship. Once you have made this commitment, you should still wait at least 3 weeks before introducing them to the kids.
If you're a single person dating someone new, you might feel the need to introduce your kids to the person that you're dating. Don't rush into it! Wait until you have been on 3 or more dates with the person and then if you feel that you have a strong connection, you can casually introduce them to your kids. Answer any questions your kids might have with honset answers and try to keep things lighthearted.
If you're in a bar and you want to send a girl a drink as a means of letting her know that you find her attractive and that you'd like to get to know her, you need to follow a couple of simple rules.
1. Send the drink over, but don't sit there and stare at her or immediately go up to her table. Wait for the waiter to bring her drink and when she looks over at you give her a nod and a smile. Wait a few minutes to see if she approaches you.
2. If she doesn't approach you, feel free to go over and confidently introduce yourself and ask if you can sit down. If she says yes, sit down and begin a conversation. If she says no, walk away and forget about it.
If you're getting tred of dinner and a movie, it's time to think of a more unique date idea. Try having a wine and cheese picnic followed by a visit to some local art galleries. You and your date will get some culture and it'll be a nice chance to get to know your date a little better. Discuss which works of art you like or don't like and why.
When on a first date, remember to do more listening than talking. Getting to know your date requires you to ask questions and then carefully listen to the answers. Questions such as ,"What are your hobbies?" are appropriate. Questions such as, "When is the last time you had sex"? are not.
|Jennifer Mathes, Ph.D.|